3 Secrets to Making A Great First Impression

Perhaps you’ve heard the expression “You never get a second chance to make a first impression.” How quickly do people form an opinion of you? Seconds? Minutes? WORSE. Not to scare everyone, but Princeton psychologists Janine Willis and Alexander Todorov conducted experiments that showed first impressions occur in 1/10th of a second and aren’t greatly altered by longer exposure to the person. It isn’t fair, but many judgments are made on faces alone. Studies show that naturally attractive people getRead more

QUICK TIPS ON LEADING DURING A CRISIS

Sometimes stressful situations make you feel like you’re in a building that’s on fire, your hair’s on fire and everything is crashing down around you. Studies have shown that 90% of top performing leaders stay calm and in control during times of crisis– but it isn’t always easy. Here are a few tips to help weather the storm: 1)  Take a Deep Breath The event you’re in, or the problem you need to solve, won’t spin out of control anyRead more

12 Quick Tips to Help You Feel Confident

None of us go through life with our confidence meter stuck on 100% all of the time. Why do we feel confident? Why don’t we? Improving our confidence takes self-reflection and practice. I recently conducted a  workshop on improving self-confidence at the University of San Diego’s Women’s Center. I had about an hour to condense a broad topic into a crash course. In addition to a quick look at psychological studies of confidence issues based on gender, and providing aRead more

WWBD- What Would Batman Do?

Do you remember when you were little and people would ask “What do you want to be when you grow up?” When I was 5 years old someone asked me that question and there was only one answer. BATMAN. Watching cartoons, I’d learned about Batman. He’s the secret identity of Bruce Wayne, an American billionaire who witnessed the murder of his parents as a child and swore revenge on criminals. His vengeance is tempered with the great ideal of justice. I was captivated.Read more

WHY FACTS DON’T MATTER

          When it comes to making an impression in a speech, one of the most important things to remember is that people don’t care about facts. What? That can’t be right! You might be thinking. Here’s an example: I recently heard a speech by a businessman who owns his own company. He told us about how he started it and detailed all the services it provided, giving us all the facts and figures. Did I care? No. Why? It wasRead more

THREE QUICK TIPS FOR TACKLING TOXIC PEOPLE

          Know-It-Alls, Bullies, Whiners, Gossips, Angry Aggressors, Passives…           We’ve all come across toxic people, in both our work and personal lives. But what do you do when you’re stuck dealing with one for more than a prolonged encounter? During a recent seminar I taught on how to read body language, an attendee had a question. It began with him describing how a co-worker sat with one hand behind his head and what that meant. ThisRead more

How to Detect a Liar

Let’s face it, everyone lies. Lies can run the spectrum from trying not to hurt someone’s feelings to toxic manipulation in work, life or love. Can you tell when someone is lying? Fortunately, with a little practice, liars can become easy to spot. These simple tips will help you not be deceived. Listen To What Is Being Said “Timmy, did you eat one of the cookies without asking?” a mom questions her six year old. “No, Mommy. I did notRead more