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Cabin in the Woods 2015

Once upon a time there was a cabin built on a pine tree-dotted mountain in Northeastern Arizona. At first, it was a simple A-frame used as a summer home, a respite from the heat of a California desert residence. When my parents retired there, some rooms were added, one filled with windows to let in the sun. It provided a peaceful place to watch birds enjoy the plentiful food provided year round. There was a deck with a porch swing to watch Blue Jays get up their courage to hop…

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How to Detect a Liar

Let's face it, everyone lies. Fortunately, with a little practice, liars become easy to spot. These simple tips will help you not be deceived. Lies can run the spectrum from trying not to hurt someone's feelings to toxic manipulation in work, life or love. Listen To What Is Being Said "Timmy, did you eat one of the cookies without asking?" a mom questions her six year old. "No, Mommy. I did not eat one of the cookies without asking." If you know what to look for, Timmy's words tell you he's…

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5 Reasons Leaders Crash and Burn

Can you recall when a supervisor/manager/CEO in charge of a business, committee or project caused everything to derail? Here's why this happens.   They Aren't Natural Born Leaders Leadership comes pre-loaded in some people. They're the ones everyone turns to when a decision needs to be made. They step in and say "Here's what we should do..." in a crisis. Of course, they can always be better leaders by learning more about how to be effective, but it's in their DNA. If they don't recognize they are natural born leaders,…

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How To Be a More Effective Communicator

With a little practice, you can be a more effective communicator. More so than famous people, athletes and politicians. Here's how. I've been a fan of Marc Maron's WTF podcast quite awhile and was surprised former President Barack Obama had decided to visit Marc's garage in LA and give an interview. Then I listened to it. And I got annoyed. (And for anyone who thinks I'm going down Politics Road, sorry to disappoint.) President Obama is known for giving moving and commanding speeches. However, delivering a prepared speech (read from…

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Adding Drama to Public Speaking

Would you like to make a bigger impact when you give a speech? These tips will bring added interest and excitement to any presentation. Every time we talk, we use different tones of voice, gestures and body language. When it comes to public speaking, it's no different. After determining what message you want to convey and crafting a speech, be it inspirational, educational or humorous, the hard work has just begun, because it's time to determine how to present your material. To give perspective, imagine that tonight you're attending a…

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My Lessons about Suicide Survival and Support

Have you lost a friend to suicide? If so, does the question What can I do to stop this from happening? keep repeating in your mind? Below are some lessons I've learned after losing a friend. Suicide rates have risen in the U.S. and make it the 10th leading cause of death. In the news  recently was the story of Andreas Lubitz, the Germanwings co-pilot who flew himself and 149 people into a mountain. Since then, it's been discovered he was depressed and he had researched suicide methods and how to secure…

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Blogging for Suicide Prevention:Ode to a Friend

Four days ago I answered my phone and was greeted by the sound of weeping. The call was to notify me a friend and attorney colleague had died by suicide, and I was being contacted because she'd left a note for me to take over her cases. I've never lost anyone to suicide. Death isn't a stranger, taking both my parents in 2010 within four months of each other, and many others over the years. Yet, the news of my friend's final act shoved me into shock. There were two…

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DOMESTIC VIOLENCE and THE BLAME GAME

Recently, the media was in an uproar over the case of Ray Rice, the NFL Football player who knocked his wife, Janay, out with a punch to the head in an elevator. He's been suspended. http://deadspin.com/heres-video-of-ray-rice-knocking-out-his-fiancee-in-an-1631864196 The front page of CNN.com has Janay making a statement that "To take something away from the man I love that he has worked his ass off for all his life just to gain ratings is a horrific. (sic)" Will the media now begin the "victim blame game?" Go back and read the first…

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Prosecutors and Sex Crimes: What Year Are We In?

The #MeToo movement is beginning to change the way people understand crimes against women. Still, rape cases seem difficult to prosecute. But are they, or is it a systemic failure? The other day I was reading the Huffington Post and came across an article titled "Prosecutors Rarely Bring Charges in College Rape Cases." It detailed how an LA County prosecutor informed a victim that he wasn't going to proceed with her case because jurors "have no experience in any kind of sex crimes occurring in their life" and would have…

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IMPROVING YOUR LIKABILITY FACTOR

One of the most powerful talents you can have is to be naturally likable. But how? Can this be learned? Absolutely. In the past week, I've had two people tell me that I have a rare quality: likability.  One of these people proclaimed it loudly to others, delighting me, of course. Some people are instantly likable. They have an easy manner, a ready smile and their energy is attractive to others. It's been shown that people who have this characteristic go far in life, from politicians to employees.  The good…

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