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3 Secrets to Making A Great First Impression

You get less than a second to make a first impression. Here are 3 easy to learn secrets that will tip the scales in your favor. Perhaps you've heard the expression "You never get a second chance to make a first impression." How quickly do people form an opinion of you? Seconds? Minutes? WORSE.  Not to scare everyone, but Princeton psychologists Janine Willis and Alexander Todorov conducted experiments that showed first impressions occur in 1/10th of a second and aren't greatly altered by longer exposure to the person. It isn't…

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Learn to Speak the Language of Love

Is love a mystery? Not really. If you're in a relationship, or planning to be in one, one of the best things you can do is learn to be a better communicator. Below are some quick tips on how to bring even more love into your life. Determine your love language by taking the 5 Love Languages Test by Dr. Gary Chapman. http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/couples/ If you don't want to take this test online, there is an option to download the .pdf file. You will find which of the 5 Love Languages…

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Lawyers: How to Win Cases with Storytelling

What captivates a jury more? Facts or stories? Developing a story for your trial will keep your jury engaged. This blog post will help you develop those beginning skills. Remember being a child and having your favorite book read to you by a parent? Or hearing someone tell a funny family story that is often repeated? How about telling your friends about something great that happened over the weekend? Storytelling is the oldest form of narrative communication by humans. It's wired into our DNA. Every human culture uses stories in…

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7 Steps to Promoting a Bestselling Book

You've written a book, it's published and...now what? Here are some tips to help you make your book a bestselling phenomenon. If you're a writer, it's likely you've spent countless hours conceptualizing, writing, and editing your book. You've also probably spent as much or more time getting it published. Now what? Brooke Warner, publisher at She Writes Press, recently spoke at Publishers and Writers San Diego about the value of building an author platform. She shared an analogy that I loved, saying, "Some writers want to hole up as they…

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QUICK TIPS ON LEADING DURING A CRISIS

If you're in a crisis situation, top performing leaders stay calm and in control. Here's how to achieve that. Sometimes stressful situations make you feel like you're in a building that's on fire, your hair’s on fire and everything is crashing down around you. Studies have shown that 90% of top performing leaders stay calm and in control during times of crisis-- but it isn’t always easy. Here are a few tips to help weather the storm: 1)  Take a Deep Breath The event you're in, or the problem you…

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How To Find the Truth in a Fake News World

In the world of Fake News, advertising spun as reality and more, how do you figure out what's real or true? This blog post will give you a head start on finding the truth. With all the advertisements, media spin, rumors, sales pitches and more that come our way, it's becoming increasingly difficult to make correct decisions based on fact. Have you ever wondered how to find out the truth? One way is to become a critical thinker. Critical thinking means disciplined thinking that is clear, rational, open-minded, and informed…

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12 Quick Tips to Help You Feel Confident

What can you do to increase your self confidence? None of us go through life with our confidence meter stuck on 100% all of the time. Why do we feel confident? Why don't we? Improving our confidence takes self-reflection and practice. Here are some quick tips to help. I recently conducted a  workshop on improving self-confidence at the University of San Diego's Women's Center. I had about an hour to condense a broad topic into a crash course. In addition to a quick look at psychological studies of confidence issues…

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WWBD- What Would Batman Do?

Do you remember when you were little and people would ask "What do you want to be when you grow up?" When I was 5 years old someone asked me that question and there was only one answer. BATMAN. Watching cartoons, I'd learned about Batman. He's the secret identity of Bruce Wayne, an American billionaire who witnessed the murder of his parents as a child and swore revenge on criminals. His vengeance is tempered with the great ideal of justice. I was captivated. Being the Caped Crusader fighting crime was the perfect job....and…

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BLOGGING FOR SUICIDE PREVENTION: ONE YEAR LATER

Have you lost someone to suicide? If you have, this blog post explores feelings about loss and how to move forward for those of us who are left. One year ago today I got a phone call no one should ever receive. I'd lost a close friend to suicide. I assisted her family by taking over her legal practice and obligations, attended the informal memorial service put on by her friends, because her family couldn't bring themselves to have one, and learned more about her end days. She'd kept her…

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THREE QUICK TIPS FOR TACKLING TOXIC PEOPLE

          Know-It-Alls, Bullies, Whiners, Gossips, Angry Aggressors, Passives...           We've all come across toxic people, in both our work and personal lives. But what do you do when you're stuck dealing with one for a LONG time? During a recent seminar I taught on how to read body language, an attendee had a question. It began with him describing how a co-worker sat with one hand behind his head and what that meant. This was easy to decipher. The guy was practically yelling "I'm superior to…

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