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12 Quick Tips to Help You Feel Confident

What can you do to increase your self confidence? None of us go through life with our confidence meter stuck on 100% all of the time. Why do we feel confident? Why don't we? Improving our confidence takes self-reflection and practice. Here are some quick tips to help. I recently conducted a  workshop on improving self-confidence at the University of San Diego's Women's Center. I had about an hour to condense a broad topic into a crash course. In addition to a quick look at psychological studies of confidence issues…

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WWBD- What Would Batman Do?

Do you remember when you were little and people would ask "What do you want to be when you grow up?" When I was 5 years old someone asked me that question and there was only one answer. BATMAN. Watching cartoons, I'd learned about Batman. He's the secret identity of Bruce Wayne, an American billionaire who witnessed the murder of his parents as a child and swore revenge on criminals. His vengeance is tempered with the great ideal of justice. I was captivated. Being the Caped Crusader fighting crime was the perfect job....and…

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BLOGGING FOR SUICIDE PREVENTION: ONE YEAR LATER

Have you lost someone to suicide? If you have, this blog post explores feelings about loss and how to move forward for those of us who are left. One year ago today I got a phone call no one should ever receive. I'd lost a close friend to suicide. I assisted her family by taking over her legal practice and obligations, attended the informal memorial service put on by her friends, because her family couldn't bring themselves to have one, and learned more about her end days. She'd kept her…

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THREE QUICK TIPS FOR TACKLING TOXIC PEOPLE

          Know-It-Alls, Bullies, Whiners, Gossips, Angry Aggressors, Passives...           We've all come across toxic people, in both our work and personal lives. But what do you do when you're stuck dealing with one for a LONG time? During a recent seminar I taught on how to read body language, an attendee had a question. It began with him describing how a co-worker sat with one hand behind his head and what that meant. This was easy to decipher. The guy was practically yelling "I'm superior to…

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Cabin in the Woods 2015

Once upon a time there was a cabin built on a pine tree-dotted mountain in Northeastern Arizona. At first, it was a simple A-frame used as a summer home, a respite from the heat of a California desert residence. When my parents retired there, some rooms were added, one filled with windows to let in the sun. It provided a peaceful place to watch birds enjoy the plentiful food provided year round. There was a deck with a porch swing to watch Blue Jays get up their courage to hop…

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How to Detect a Liar

Let's face it, everyone lies. Fortunately, with a little practice, liars become easy to spot. These simple tips will help you not be deceived. Lies can run the spectrum from trying not to hurt someone's feelings to toxic manipulation in work, life or love. Listen To What Is Being Said "Timmy, did you eat one of the cookies without asking?" a mom questions her six year old. "No, Mommy. I did not eat one of the cookies without asking." If you know what to look for, Timmy's words tell you he's…

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5 Reasons Leaders Crash and Burn

Can you recall when a supervisor/manager/CEO in charge of a business, committee or project caused everything to derail? Here's why this happens.   They Aren't Natural Born Leaders Leadership comes pre-loaded in some people. They're the ones everyone turns to when a decision needs to be made. They step in and say "Here's what we should do..." in a crisis. Of course, they can always be better leaders by learning more about how to be effective, but it's in their DNA. If they don't recognize they are natural born leaders,…

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How To Be a More Effective Communicator

With a little practice, you can be a more effective communicator. More so than famous people, athletes and politicians. Here's how. I've been a fan of Marc Maron's WTF podcast quite awhile and was surprised former President Barack Obama had decided to visit Marc's garage in LA and give an interview. Then I listened to it. And I got annoyed. (And for anyone who thinks I'm going down Politics Road, sorry to disappoint.) President Obama is known for giving moving and commanding speeches. However, delivering a prepared speech (read from…

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Adding Drama to Public Speaking

Would you like to make a bigger impact when you give a speech? These tips will bring added interest and excitement to any presentation. Every time we talk, we use different tones of voice, gestures and body language. When it comes to public speaking, it's no different. After determining what message you want to convey and crafting a speech, be it inspirational, educational or humorous, the hard work has just begun, because it's time to determine how to present your material. To give perspective, imagine that tonight you're attending a…

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My Lessons about Suicide Survival and Support

Have you lost a friend to suicide? If so, does the question What can I do to stop this from happening? keep repeating in your mind? Below are some lessons I've learned after losing a friend. Suicide rates have risen in the U.S. and make it the 10th leading cause of death. In the news  recently was the story of Andreas Lubitz, the Germanwings co-pilot who flew himself and 149 people into a mountain. Since then, it's been discovered he was depressed and he had researched suicide methods and how to secure…

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